What you present to the world is exactly what is reflected back either directly or indirectly!
I had another experience where I learnt a huge lesson from a child. We get so used to our own chatter sometimes that we do not realise exactly what we are saying, nor what effect these words truly have on ourselves or our environment.
I thought that I was doing so well, with my monitoring process of my own thoughts and words. I was observing myself ensuring that I was not using any words or thinking thoughts of anything less than empowering ones.
I failed miserably some time ago. I have a habit of speaking to myself at times when I make decisions, and apparently a little child overheard my self-talk while I was shopping at the grocery store. I was at a particular shelf trying to decide what I should purchase and spent forever trying to decide. In the process (which took far more time than I had, as I was already late for a meeting), I must have called myself silly out loud, for not being able to decide.
A the counter, I miscounted my money and handed the lady an Euro short of what I should have given her. The little child was behind the counter and heard us talking about the mistake. The event made perfect sense to him, as he then stated to the lady at the counter: “she is silly, that’s why”. I looked down to explore what had prompted this child to say this. He looked up at me and asked me why I was so silly? At this point, I was growing slightly upset and automatically turned to his mother with a look of query and apparent look of anger and confusion on my face.
It took me a few seconds for it to register, but I then realised exactly what he was referring to. My anger turned into shame and I caught myself wanting to say it again. Realising again what I was doing to myself, I took a deep breathe, smiled and consciously turned the feeling of shame into something positive.
I responded to the child that I was actually not silly, but had made a comment, which was. I told him that it was a mistake, and that I should not have said that. “Then, why did you say it?” the little child simply asked again, not being able to understand.
This little child caught me right in the midst of my negative self-chatter, and I am most thankful for that! How many other times have I engaged myself in this negative self talk without being aware of it?
When you say things about yourself such as I am an idiot”, or “I am dumb”, or whatever, then those around you will really start to treat you accordingly. Since that occasion, I have made a concerted effort to observe and alter my thought patterns. It makes a world of difference!
…and I leave you with one of my favourite morning porridges. It is a whole oat porridge, made with almond milk, flaxseeds, cranberries, pecans and all sorts of other goodies, filled with great nutrients to start off your day. Enjoy!!
- 2 cups of your favourite nut mylk or soy
- 1 cup of whole grain oats
- 4 tbsp raisins or chopped dates, prunes
- 1 tsp of cinnamon
- 1 tbsp of shredded coconut
- 2 tsp maple syrup (or brown sugar)
- 1 tsp coconut oil or flaxseed oil (for added nutritional value)
- a handful of Pecans or Walnuts Instructions
- Place your nut-mylk into a saucepan and cook on medium-high for a minute.
- Add in your oats, and turn down the heat to medium.
- Stir in the raisons dates, or prunes, cinnamon and coconut and stir for about 10 minutes until you have the consistency you want.
- Place your nuts on top and be comforted!!!